glam party

Imagine waking up every day for 47 years and never seeing the real you reflected in the mirror. One of my earliest memories was Christmas morning; my girl cousins were given beautiful nightgowns and the boys were given football-themed PJs. I felt there was a cosmic mistake. This was decades before the Internet and the only time I saw gender-nonconforming people in the media, it was typically men in drag playing it for laughs. Four decades of shame would pass before I found the courage to reveal myself to close friends; years later I would nervously tell family and now I am finally ready to share my story with the world.
My first session with Tania captured a major moment in my journey: the first time I ever dressed up, in full wardrobe, wigs and makeup, and shared the experience with friends. It was the first time I would ever feel the joy of hanging out with women as a woman. My wife is so supportive of my gender exploration, but dresses and makeup and glamour are of little interest to her; she was hoping I would find some girlfriends who would enjoy a fun day of glamour – so I put the word out and the big day arrived.
Long before the camera came out, Tania and I instantly clicked. Warmth, joy, compassion and love flow freely from her; her divine feminine spirit welcomed me, comforted me, made me feel at ease and at home in my own skin. I was in a padded bra and skirt without makeup when she arrived, and I never once felt self-conscious or nervous. While I prepared my makeup, Tania snapped pictures of our friends and I could not believe what exquisite portraits she was able to capture by finding the perfect light and place to shoot – in my kitchen!

And then, my session began. When I typically dress for selfies I don’t really know how to pose, so all of my pictures to date feature some take on the same few Zoolander “Blue Steel” gazes. Tania helped me step out of my stock poses and into my comfort zone, finding new ways to be playful, comfortable and live truly in the moment. The lens disappeared and it was just the two of us. I have yet to see the final images, but I have full trust in her. Even if a cosmic mistake wiped out her memory card and all the pictures were lost, I would still treasure every moment of my time with her. I rarely looked in the mirror that day because in her trusting, compassionate and beautiful eyes, I finally saw myself.

{february} real life

february has been amazing. like all the other months in the pacific northwest. i cannot complain. one wish: lanikai or bali just a car ride away, maybe. is that asking for too much? ;) i am grateful for the gorgeous evergreens, the refreshing spice herb pine and salty puget sound air, the lovely weather, the fake winters - yes, fake winters, this rain and humidity and mist and cloudiness, all of it. beautiful kind of winter. that writer moody winter. and these kids. i am grateful for them this month, and all months really. we've had sick days, and growth spurt days, and no sleep days, and every day tired walking feet from walks and hikes and trails days. these days i've been waking up and saying "i think i'll just be happy today". we put a lot on ourselves. being happy is more than enough. its rich and bountiful. and if all fails, 'each morning we are born again, what we do today is what matters most' . i'm not sure if buddha really said that. i think people like to think he did. it doesn't matter. it's a good quote. i hope you take the time to breathe in those every day moments. it is fleeting. 

please continue on to the blog circle by visiting Lenka , a fabulous woman. i am excited to see what all my fellow participants have posted for this month. 


warmth to you this spring, 

tania xoxo

{real life} january in black and white

i'm excited to share that i'm part of a group of women that share photos of real life on the 10th of every month this year. documenting and finding beauty in the every day, good, bad, norm. these are the photos that i love to take. the things that happen all around me, and are beautiful moments that happen in our lives, the moments frozen in time when captured. i decided to stick to my favorite black and white images of january. 

there is a book we are reading at bedtime called the 'star child', and there is a lot of beauty in that book. the Star Child, a tiny flame of vapor, invisible and timeless, watches the Earth from far, far away. He marvels at the blue swirls of the ocean and the green land, a bright spot turning through the darkness of space. He wants to go to this wondrous place, but he ponders: What will that life be like? I found it my inspiration for many of the photos I took this month, and using that sense of wonder and newness in every day moments, and every day things. 

You will be plunged into Earth’s river of time,” his elders tell the Star Child.
There will be so much for you to learn and so much for you to feel—pleasure and fear, joy and disappointment, sadness and wonder.

hop over to Katie Brenkert's Everyday Moments page to see her january real life photos and continue on the blog circle. 




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The Stewart Family | Tacoma Family Photojournalism

i came over to see what dinner was like with the stewart family. henry is quite a light. 

warmth, tania